New Blog

I started a new blog. I thought a change was in order since I am no longer in NY or the NYPD.

The new name is The Heretical Jew, and is not anonymouse. I do not post about my divorce, but do post about my adorable kids.

I should be seeing them next month btw.

Hope to see you all there!

Kyle.W.

Failure!

We have managed to raise children who feel sad when they see the funeral scene of Pricess Padme in Star Wars but dont care about genocide around the world. Man how we have failed!!

Bouro Park Riots

No one disputes that he was driving while talking on a cell phone. Also, he refused to hand over his liscence and proof on insurance. In such a case it is procedure to make an arrest.

So what was this riot about? People upset about getting tickets? Its part of life in NYC...suck it up or move out!

Update

Well all, it has been a long time since I have posted. It is not that I have not had for what to write about, but rather did not know where to start.

The divorce has begun in the court room. His honor has decided that I should not have left my prior job depsite my no longer being frum and therefore no longer qualified for the job. His honor thinks I should have kept it and fooled, or try to fool, everyone. That being said, my child support payments are being based on my prior income which is much less than any income I could make either in NY or here in ND.

I miss my children terribly, but now with the setting of the child support payments I could not afford to live in NY if I wanted to. The only thing I have left in NY that I want to go see are my children. My Maternal Grandmother passed away a couple of weeks ago, and we buried her on my mother's birthday. (Not planned that way) Therefore my last attachment to the state are my children. It is hard for I want to be there with them, but I know I can not.

Selfish?

In the previous post a commentor who chose to be anonomous told me I should not be so selfish. I do not feel I have been selfish in the course of my marriage nor do I feel I am being selfish now. When one makes sacrifices in a marriage, both for your spouse and your children, one must draw the line at some point. I have drawn the line and the marriage ended. I need to look out for my future and the future of my children. I have not forgotten my children. I do not think I have said anything here that would indicate such. I will never forget my children and my obligation to care for them. However, I may not be in their lives in person on a daily bassis. It will be hard for ALL involved. Yet, they will know that I am there for them. I will allways be a phone call away from them. If needed I will alllways be a plane flight away from them. I will make sure that then allways know that I love them.

Do not take me for the type of Father that writes off his children and turns his back for I am not that type.

End Game

Things went as scheduled on Thursday, and I gave my wife a Get as she requested of me. However, I did not expect her to serve me civil divorce papers in front of the Rav's home. The basis of the suit is "Cruel and Inhumane treatment" and "Constructive abandonment". Cruel and Inhuman treatment? I know we have had our times and have faught over things, but I would like to say that I have not treated her badly. This unilateral action of hers has brought me to the place where I have decided to end my marriage. I will be returning from my "get away" if you will not to my home with my kids but to my mother's apartment. I will have to turn on the utilities that have most likely been shut off. It did not have to go this way. It could have been more mutually agreeable and easier for the both of us.

I gave my ex-wife five hundred dollars for mother's helpers and baby sitters for the time I would be gone. I hope she is spending that money wisely. It does not seem that way if she is shleping them through grocery stores.

Back from "Vacation"

I am back from my vacation of sorts. I have not posted for a long time. It was not for the lack of what to write about, but rather I have not really know where to start. I still am dealing with my grief over my Mother's death. A day does not go by where I do not think about calling her to tell her something.

My religious observance has suffered and I do not think that I am what you would call Frum anymore. This of course has had its toll on my marriage.

I will be going away for ten days to a location I have kept secret. I will spend that time thinking about what I want of my future. Amongst the issues will be whether I will be Frum anymore and whether I will be married anymore. My wife has requested that I issue her a Get before I leave so I will not actually be married as of next Thursday. If I decide that I want to be married and the end of the ten days then we will have a new Ketubah written. I do not think that will happen... but I have surprised myself before.

Tough times.